5 mistakes that held my Husband and I back from pursuing our dreams early in our marriage and how we made up for them.
Fear Based Decisions
At an early age of 23, my Husband wanted to own a Subway, but my Father and I both feared how much he could lose persuaded him to play it safe and stay at his 9-5.
We made this decision out of fear rather than power and kept him from pursuing a dream of his.
Later, I wanted to create “themed” birthday party business.
For the same prior reasons, I resisted following my gut, and unfortunately, someone else had the same dream and implemented what we all know as Party City.
Looking back, I wished I had the courage to encourage my husband to pursue his dreams.
I had a scarcity mindset when I got married and looking back, I wished I could’ve recognized it.
I lived by the mantra, “Is it a Need or a Want?” which came directly from my parents whom grew up in the Great Depression.
While my husband had an abundance mindset, anything outside of the norm was uncomfortable for me and too risky.
My scarcity mindset kept a lid on our growth by not taking advantage of dreams that we both held in our hearts.
Scarcity mindset can be one of the greatest hurdles to overcome.
To avoid making the same mistake we did, ask your partner these five questions:
Do I make decisions from a place of lack or abundance?
Ask for evidence aka, examples so you can see it.
Ask for your partner to help you recognize it in the future.
While you may believe you are trying to protect your family, it can keep you from living up to your fullest potential.
Before proceeding on an idea, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that could possibly happen by us pursuing this dream? If you can stomach it, then ask yourself, who is a someone we know that could be a good resource to talk to or be mentored by.
Don’t give up on the pursuit of your dreams.
There are many cases in which your spouse can quit their 9-5 and join you in your business.
This is attainable through a shared mission and communication.
Remember: It’s never too late to pursue your dreams!